Wedding vows are such a special part of a marriage. They are promises that you make to your loved one, letting them know what they can expect during your life together. This promise is not just words, it has meaning and purpose in your new relationship as a married couple. In the past, people would read a pre-written vow from the church, but slowly others have started writing their own or finding a vow online that hits home for them.
While there is no wrong way to do your vows, we are going to talk about writing your own vows today. While it may not be for everyone, writing your own vows is special and can make your wedding even more meaningful.
At Bohemia River Overlook, we love weddings. They are so much more than a big party to celebrate the union of two people in love. They are a beautiful and special party with personal touches, deep connections, and a first hand witness of true love.
But one thing that can make these beautiful ceremonies even more special for you and your loved one is writing your own vows. There are many reasons why writing your own vows can make your wedding and marriage even more meaningful.
In this blog, we will go over the benefits of writing your own vows! Read now and start working on your vows!
They Are Personal
Writing your own vows allows you to put personal touches in them and make them catered more toward you both as a couple. There are many beautiful pre-written vows out there that some people may find perfect for them, but a vow is something special. It is a promise to your spouse that no one else can make. It should come from the heart and writing your own will make it personal and they will know you put effort into it and that it truly did come from the heart.
You want the love of your life to hear your vows and know that you wrote it just for them. Writing your own vows allow you to put meaning behind the words, rather than just stating some generic sentence. You can add nicknames, inside jokes, and other things they will remind them of the good times you have had, allowing them to be super personal.
They Have Meaning
When you take the time to write your own vows for your wedding day, you will be thinking about what your love means to you and what you want to promise them. You will think about what you have been through, what you want with your soon-to-be-spouse, and you will put meaning behind each and every word. They will be able to tell that your vow is genuine. We aren’t saying that using a pre-written vow is isn’t genuine, but they will be able to feel the meaning behind each word when you write your own vows. Referencing certain events, inside jokes, or even nicknames you have for each other can help show that meaning even more.
They Are Romantic
These are the words you want to say to your love bug. These are the words to describe how you love them, how you will show your love, and how you want to spend the rest of your life with them. If that isn’t romantic, we don’t know what is. These personal and meaningful vows will allow you to tell each other your true feelings and get on a deeper level. Many couples do not get this deep often, and doing so on your wedding day is super romantic and intimate.
They Can Strengthen Your Bond
Well, obviously your bond is pretty strong since you are about to get married. But reading each other your vows in front of all of your friends and family allows the two of you to have a very intimate and meaningful moment in the middle of a large ceremony. This special connection is something that will just strengthen your love and make the feelings in that moment even stronger. This is a special experience to share with someone, a declaration of love and a promise that everyone can witness but only your love will understand and feel. It is like writing a love some for someone—everyone gets to enjoy the words but only the person the song is written for truly knows the meaning behind each word.
They Can Be Kept
When you write your own vows, you will most likely keep them. There are many things you can do with them after your wedding. You can display them in a beautiful picture frame with a wedding picture in the center. This is a great way to display your love and the vows, as well as show of your favorite wedding picture. This can serve as a daily reminder what you promised to each other and the love your have for one another. You could also put the vows away, only to take them out during a big fight or your first fight. Pull these out and read them to each other or to yourselves. This is a good reminder that no fight is worth sacrificing the love your have for one another. It can help you think about the good times rather than the fight and allow you to resolve things faster. You could also keep your vows in a special spot until your fifth, 10th, or 25th wedding anniversary. Take them out and read them. Laugh about the inside jokes that you shared in them and remember how special your wedding day truly was. This is a great way to reconnect and fall in love all over again.
At Bohemia River Overlook, we work hard to make sure your wedding goes as perfectly as possible. We want you to remember this day as the day that started the rest of your life. Our three venues can help create the perfect setting for you and your love to read your vows to one another. Schedule a tour today and start writing your vows!