We often discuss wedding planning, what the bride should do to make sure everything is perfect, and how to bride can prepare for her perfect day. But what we forget from time to time is that a marriage is a partnership, and the groom is involved in this celebration as well. Will the bride may be the main planner throughout the wedding, the groom must help as well.
As your wedding day draws closer and the plan begin to finalize, you better make sure you are pulling you weight! If you leave your soon-to-be wife alone to make all of the plans, she will drive herself crazy, be overly stressed out, and she might even start to hate you. Now you don’t want that, do you? You want to show her that you can be there during stressful moments and work with her to create something wonderful and beautiful. While she may still be making all of the decisions, it is important for your to be there, helping her whenever she needs it, allowing her to destress, and pulling your weight.
Planning a wedding is hard work, and since most men have not been planning their dream wedding since they were 12, it is most likely harder for the grooms. But you must help, trust us when we say that, even if it is as simple and licking the envelopes and picking the cake flavor. Your lady will appreciate the effort and notice all the help you are providing.
But what should you do? How should you help and how can you help in the best ways possible? In this blog, we will give your some tips, creating the groom’s guide to wedding planning. Read on to get help before the big day!
Let’s start with the basics. After getting down on one knee and spilling your heart to the love of your life, the wedding planning will begin before you can even get back on your feet. Start as simple as possible and work your way down the list, it will help you and her see what is getting done and what needs to be done. The list might look long, but once you get started on the easy items, you can cross them out and make the list more manageable.
The date is not really important, unless you want the day you get married to have some special significance, such as your first kiss or the first day you met. If the date does not really matter to either of you, simply decide the date based on the type of weather you want during your wedding. Obviously you can’t plan for the weather but a summer wedding will most likely ensure you are getting married on a nice and warm day—winter weddings, not so much. Pick a day and have it set. Or at least pick the month, the actual date may have to wait until after the venue is selected, based on their availabilities.
Yes, a backyard wedding would be easier, but you have had three birthday parties, a graduation party, and an engagement party in that backyard. Pick something special and different for your wedding. Your soon-to-be wife is most likely going to want a venue that is gorgeous, unique, and something other than your backyard. A great place to start looking for venues is Bohemia River Overlook in Maryland. Our venue offers three different locations on the property, allowing for you and your lady (mostly her) to pick the perfect look and feel you want for your wedding.
If she wants a wedding that is extravagant, romantic, and takes on the feel of a fairytale, the manor is a great location to check out. The waterfront views, formal garden, along with the reflective pool and fountain give this location a charming and elegant feel. This is a great location for a wedding that has a little bit of everything.
The beach location at our venue and vineyard is perfect for a more relaxed but extremely romantic wedding setting. With a private beach, beautiful pier, and a calming water backdrop, this is an ideal location for the beach lovers. The secluded area creates a wedding space that is intimate and gorgeous.
If you are looking for something a little more unique and laid back, the barn location may be the one. The bold read barn make for a beautiful backdrop, perfect for the country chic wedding. If you don’t know what country chic is, you can ask your soon-to-be wife. This is a great space for a unique and fun wedding. The barn can help create the charming but relaxed celebration that your fiancée has been dreaming of.
No matter which location you choose at Bohemia River Overlook, you can’t go wrong. We also offer wedding packages, which include the venue for six hours, tables, chairs, and linens, flatware and glassware, a specialty bar, and so much more! We are also partners of ROUGE Fine Catering, a catering company that serves gourmet hors d’oeuvres, entrees, and desserts, giving you a wedding meal to remember! Plus, you will receive a list of our favorite vendors, which can help you decide everything from the music to photo booths. This can help make your wedding planning much easier.
Whatever you and your lady are wanting for your wedding venue, Bohemia River Overlook can help you find the perfect location and package!
Don’t just hand your soon-to-be wife a list of your closest friends and family members that you want at your wedding. Sit down and help her plan out the guest list. Unfortunately, not everyone is going to be invited and get hard to choose who makes the list and who does not. Leaving this task for your financée to do be herself is a cruel thing to do. She won’t be able to invite some of her cousins and not others, she will need help deciding with friends make the cut, and which she should expect to not show up. This is a task you both need to do together. Sit down and talk it out, making and finalizing a list will be hard, but when you do it together she will be relieved and you can both decide who makes the list.
Take Care of the Groom Stuff
Make sure you are taking care of your own stuff through the wedding planning. Don’t wait for your fiancée to tell you what to do or decide things for you. Take matters into your own hands, at least when it comes to the groom’s to-to list.
Pick out your groomsmen carefully. While it is just fine to invite all of your rowdy buddies to stand by your side on your wedding day, make sure your best man is not the rowdiest of them all. Remember, he will most likely have to give a speech and you don’t want your brand new wife holding a grudge because your best man made an inappropriate speech. Pick your best man carefully and make sure you invite the brothers to be your groomsmen, both your brothers and hers.
Get your tux taken care of without your fiancée reminding you several times. It will just cause her more stress. Make sure you get it fitted way before the wedding so that it is done in time, and make sure you get something she will like. Don’t go overly colorful or unique, unless of course that is the plan that you both have decided on. Ask your soon-to-be wife what the color scheme is going to be and plan accordingly. It is okay to add touches of color if they match the colors picked. You will also want to make sure your groomsmen have matching tuxes as well.
Writing your vows is another task that the groom must take care of. This is a great way to express your love for your lady, just spill your heart out onto that paper and read it during the ceremony. Sounds easy enough, right? Unfortunately, this can actually be more difficult than writing college essays. You have to explain your love for someone else, in front of family and friends. Writer’s block tends to kick in when writing vows, but here are a few tips to make it easier: write simply, do not try getting overly creative or romantic, make it personal, speak honestly, and say what you feel. You don’t want to go over the top with a Shakespearean love sonnet. Remember that she knows you better than most people, she will know if you are trying too hard to sound romantic or is you actually mean what you say.
Show Her Love
While there are many more wedding plans to make and help your fiancée with, we will start with the simple tasks as well as one of the most important things to do during wedding planning—loving your lady. She will be stressed, nervous, anxious, and everything else, all while feeling overwhelmingly happy and in love. She will need you there to make sure she doesn’t lose her mind trying to pick a wedding cake flavor. Show her love, spend time with her without making a single wedding plan, and help her remember why she is planning such an intricate party. Being there for her and helping her with whatever she needs is one of the most important things you can do. After all, this is now a partnership, pull your weight, help her plan, and make sure to never stop loving her throughout the planning process.
This is a simple and quick grooms guide. In a future blog, we will give you more tips and tricks to planning your wedding. Start with the simple decisions and keep moving forward from there, it will help. Being part of the planning process is important and will allow you and your fiancée to work through the problems together, as you should. Start by contacting Bohemia River Overlook to schedule a visit to see our venue and our beautiful locations and learn more about our packages.